The Pioneers of Spiritual Manifestation and the Subconscious Mind- Rachel Devine

Spiritual manifestation and the power of the subconscious mind have become popular topics in recent years, but their roots stretch back much further. In all its mysticism is a fascinating theory. As we dive into the history we encounter pioneers who first proposed these transformative ideas and their contributions to the field of psychology.

Phineas Quimby: The Father of New Thought

Phineas Parkhurst Quimby, (Feb 16, 1802 NH - Jan 16, 1866, Belfast, ME), American exponent of mental healing, who is generally regarded as the founder of the New Thought movement, a metaphysical healing theory. Phineas Quimby, often recognized as the father of the New Thought movement, was one of the first to propose the idea of mind-over-matter in the mid-19th century. He believed that illness originated in the mind and could be cured through changing one's beliefs. This perspective laid the groundwork for the concept of positive thinking and its impact on reality, forming the foundation of manifestation.

Prentice Mulford: The Law of Attraction

Prentice Mulford (April 5, 1834 – c. May 30, 1891) was an American literary author. In addition, he was pivotal in the development of the thought within the New Thought movement. Many of the principles that would become standard in the movement, including the Law of Attraction were clearly laid out in his, Your Forces and How to Use Them, released as a series of essays during 1886–1892.

Prentice Mulford, a pivotal figure in the New Thought movement, is often credited with introducing the Law of Attraction. His essays, collectively known as "Your Forces and How to Use Them," proposed the idea that our thoughts attract corresponding events in the physical world. This laid the theoretical groundwork for modern manifestation theories.

Emile Coué: Autosuggestion and the Conscious Mind

Emile Coué, a French psychologist and pharmacist, introduced the concept of autosuggestion in the early 20th century. His famous mantra, "Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better," encapsulated the idea of influencing the subconscious mind through repeated affirmations, a practice widely used in manifestation techniques today.

Neville Goddard: Imagining Creates Reality

Neville Lancelot Goddard (Feb 19, 1905 – Oct 1, 1972), generally known as Neville Goddard, was a Barbadian New Thought author and Mysticwho wrote on the Bible, esotericism, and is considered to be one of the pioneers of the "law of assumption". He was a proponent of the New Thought movement in the mid-20th century, emphasized the power of imagination in shaping reality. His work, which included the belief that individuals could create their desired reality by imagining it in the first-person present tense, significantly influenced the modern concept of manifestation. Neville Goddard’s idea on how to manifest anything, was to transfer your feelings on what you want to manifest, from conscious into the subconscious mind at the critical stage, before bedtime, and the subconscious mind would bring that into form. It is a fascinating practice in order to manifest your desires into reality. He also has a fascinating book called, “Feeling is the Secret.” The subconscious mind and dreams that can become your reality.

Dr. Joseph Murphy: The Power of the Subconscious Mind

Dr. Joseph Murphy's Ph. D., D.D., (1898-1981), a native of Ireland who resettled in America was a prolific and widely admired New Thought minister and writer, best known for his motivational classic, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, an international bestseller since it first appeared onto the self-help scene in 1963. Dr. Murphy seminal work, "The Power of Your Subconscious Mind", brought the concept of manifestation into mainstream psychology. He suggested that the subconscious mind operates on the beliefs instilled by the conscious mind, and by altering these beliefs, one can manifest their desires. Murphy's work provides one of the clearest links between the practice of manifestation and the subconscious mind.

The Evolution of Manifestation Theory

The manifestation theory has evolved and diversified over time, incorporating elements from various disciplines, including psychology, neuroscience, and quantum physics. Today, it is a multi-faceted field with diverse interpretations and practices. Some emphasize the role of the Law of Attraction, while others focus more on visualization or affirmations.

In essence, the pioneers of manifestation believed in the transformative power of the mind—our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs—and their ability to shape our reality. Their innovative ideas continue to inspire countless individuals and form the bedrock of the manifestation practices we see today.

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Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road - Your Secret Journey Home & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. She also created several online courses & seminars designed to help one in various social settings.

The Power of Manifestation: Techniques, Quotes, and Examples - Rachel Devine

Manifestation is the practice of harnessing the power of the mind to shape reality and achieve desired outcomes. It is the belief that one's thoughts, feelings, and beliefs can directly influence the world around them. This concept has gained significant popularity in recent years, with many individuals attributing their success to the power of manifestation. In this article, we will explore the most powerful manifestation techniques, look at the role of the subconscious mind, provide insightful quotes from famous personalities on the topic, provide manifestation examples, and examine the success rates of manifestation through two famous people. The power of manifestation is within your reach as we explore endless possibilities. The practice of spiritual manifestation can help you manifest your dreams and live the life you imagined.

The Significance of the Subconscious Mind

It all starts with the power of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is responsible for storing our memories, beliefs, and emotions, and it controls approximately 95% of our actions and decisions. By influencing our subconscious mind, we can effectively change our habits, behaviors, and thought patterns, ultimately leading to significant changes in our lives. It can also help us obtain long-forgotten dreams and goals.

The subconscious mind also acts as a filter, screening out information that does not align with our beliefs and allowing information that supports our beliefs to enter our conscious awareness. This filtering process can either hinder or enhance our ability to achieve our goals, depending on the beliefs held within our subconscious mind. These beliefs have been stored in our minds since childhood.

The Feelings of the Subconscious Mind

Feelings play a critical role in shaping the subconscious mind, as they serve as the bridge between our conscious thoughts and subconscious beliefs. Emotions are the language of the subconscious, and when we evoke strong, positive feelings through visualization, intentions, and affirmations, we create a powerful connection with our subconscious mind. This connection allows us to reprogram our subconscious beliefs and, in turn, influence our actions and behaviors to align with our desired outcomes. I will outline some ways to reprogram the subconscious mind to be positive.

Powerful Manifestation Techniques

a) Visualization

Visualization involves creating a vivid mental image of the desired outcome, allowing the mind to fully experience the emotions and sensations associated with that goal. This technique is highly effective in manifesting one's desires because it helps to strengthen neural pathways in the brain, making it easier to achieve the desired outcome. Visualization techniques are more powerful a few minutes before falling asleep. Visualizing what you want to manifest and resonating with the feelings will help shape your goals in your subconscious mind, which in turn helps you achieve your goals. Remember, we navigate life with our subconscious mind. You will be resonating with these positive feelings for 8 hours while you sleep. This is the most powerful technique for reshaping the subconscious mind and is worth reiterating. It is the commander in our brain that navigates our lives.

b) Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that reinforce belief in the achievement of specific goals. It helps to negate old negative thought patterns with positive ones. By regularly reciting positive affirmations, individuals can reprogram their subconscious mind, ultimately leading to a change in their thought patterns and actions. This will help you navigate in a successful way toward achieving your goals.

c) Written Intention

A written intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action, or actions, for a future goal, and you write out what you want to obtain. It's powerful beyond anyone's imagination in helping us obtain our dreams. Your written intention goes out into God's vast universe, and that energy does come back, but it also gets embedded in your subconscious mind. There are several ways to write an intention. I wrote a letter once outlining where I wanted to see myself in a year, and then I put the letter away. To my astonishment, I read the letter after the year was up, and everything I wrote on the letter came to pass. It proved to me the power of a written intention. This is a good example of manifesting something by writing it down.

d) Vision Boards

Creating a vision board is a powerful way to materialize one's dreams and aspirations. It is a collage of images, words, stickers, and phrases that represent the desired outcomes, serving as a constant reminder and source of motivation. It also helps to shape the subconscious mind with positive goals in order to navigate in a successful direction. Looking at the vision board daily helps to keep one's dreams at the forefront and keeps positive energy flowing.

g) Gratitude

Expressing gratitude for what one already has is another powerful manifestation technique. By focusing on the abundance in one's life, individuals attract more of what they desire. The law of attraction is clear: like attracts like, and positive thoughts will bring positive results. Additionally, gratitude also plays an important role in shaping our subconscious mind. Writing down 5 things you are grateful for at the end of your day has a myriad of benefits in your life, which will help you with your manifestation practice.

Quotes from Famous Personalities on Manifestation

a) "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve." Napoleon Hill

b) "The only limits in our lives are those we impose on ourselves." Bob Proctor

c) "The mind is everything." "What you think, you become." - Buddha

d) "The greatest gift you were ever given was the gift of your imagination. "Within your magical inner realm is the capacity to have all of your wishes fulfilled." Wayne Dyer

e) "Fate is only an unconscious manifestation of things that we wanted in the first place." Carl Jung

Success rate of manifestation

While it is difficult to provide an exact percentage or success rate for manifestation, numerous anecdotal accounts and case studies suggest that many individuals have achieved their desired outcomes through these techniques. Here are two such case studies from famous people:

a) Jim Carrey

In 1990, struggling actor Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million, dated for five years in the future, with the memo "for acting services rendered." He visualized receiving that money for years. Therefore, Jim Carrey used a written intention and the power of positive visualization to manifest his dream. By 1995, he had earned $10 million for his role in "Dumb and Dumber."

b) Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey attributes much of her success to the power of manifestation. She has spoken about her use of vision boards and affirmations to help her stay focused on her goals and ultimately achieve them.

In conclusion, the power of manifestation is a fascinating concept that continues to gain popularity. By employing techniques like visualization, affirmations, vision boards, and gratitude, many individuals have been able to achieve their desired outcomes. With famous personalities such as Napoleon Hill, Bob Proctor, Wayne Dyer, Buddha, and Carl Jung providing insight into the power of manifestation, it is no wonder that more and more people are turning to these techniques to help them create the life they desire. While it is difficult to quantify the success rate of manifestation, the anecdotal evidence and case studies available suggest that it is a powerful tool for those who choose to embrace it. However, with a little practice, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to create the future of your dreams.

 Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road-Your Secret Journey Home & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack - Become a Magnet for True Love.

Join Rachel Devine for a special zoom online event, How to Manifest your Dreams, on June 8, 2023. Full details on this link.

How to Manifest your Dreams - Special online Event - June 8, 2023, 7pm est Rachel Devine

Many of us want to improve our lives in some capacity and in order to do that we set some goals or we have long-forgotten dreams that get put on the back burner because, “life happens.” In this fast-pace world many of us put our dreams on hold to raise a family or just to get through each speeding day. We are like little hamsters on a wheel, spinning furiously and getting nowhere. The present moment is all we have and it’s the time to put focus on YOUR life, what you want to do, and how to achieve your goals and dreams. This online event is designed to help you focus on those long-forgotten dreams and show you step-by-step how to manifest your dreams and goals into reality. I will show you how to achieve your goals and dreams. We will review the most powerful manifestation techniques, as well as ways on how to manifest your dreams into reality in this online course.

Whether you want to lose weight, get healthy, become a writer, meet your soulmate, volunteer for a pet rescue, become a little league coach, start a business, build your business, create a website, buy a house, or help the homeless, whatever your dreams & goals are, the first step is to put focused attention on what you want. The objective is to resurrect that goal and bring it out into the open so you can start putting energy into manifesting your dreams.

Our subconscious mind is powerful and drives our life in the direction of its choice. Empowered with this knowledge, it is important to rid oneself of negative voices from the past and equip ourselves with positive affirmations and words. What you think and feel gets embedded in your mind and creates your future. Manifesting your dreams by changing your thoughts and feelings to give your subconscious mind a positive viewpoint, can change your life in miraculous ways. I will show you how to do that with surefire, proven techniques that can change your life for the better. I will use techniques from some powerful spiritual masters like, Neville Goddard and Dr. Wayne Dyer.

If you missed our recent retreat on, Discover the Power of the Moment, Manifest your Dreams, this special event will bring you the highlights of, manifesting your dreams from our retreat and for a fraction of the cost. It’s only $19.99. This special price is for this one-time event only. Take advantage of this very special event, and special price, in order to help you in your quest for growth and renewal. I will show you how to manifest your dreams or goals into reality and bring a whole new chapter of your life to fruition.

If you were on the retreat and need a refresher course, please join us. There will be incredible new material added.

The event includes the following 5 ways on how to achieve your goals examples and much more:

1.    Affirmations for manifesting your dreams

2.    Positive Visualization

3.    A surefire game plan

4.    Written intention (with activity)

5.    Gratitude

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Rachel Devine will be conducting this event. She is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. Become a Magnet for True Love.

How to Manifest Love - Rachel Devine

Manifesting love into our lives is easy if you have the right tools. The law of attraction is very clear, it states like attracts like. Therefore, if you want to attract a loving, kind, generous partner, you have to become loving, kind and generous and put that energy out into the universe. The energy we resonate with and put out into the world will eventually come back to us. In this article, I will outline how to attract love with law of attraction. I will show you how to manifest love. The information you will acquire on how to attract a soulmate is powerful and priceless. Manifesting a relationship is quite easy and this guide will help you achieve this dream.

Let’s get started.

Self-Love

Before you or I can love anyone, we have to love ourselves. It is imperative to love yourself. If you are resonating with self-loathing or negative thoughts about yourself, it will not bring you a positive outcome in love. Shift to using affirmations that affirm your love for yourself. I will list a few below, but the main affirmation is saying, I love you to yourself daily. This will start to penetrate your subconscious mind, who is the navigator of your life. Therefore, if you are resonating with self-love, you can put that energy out into the universe then that love will come back to you.

Remember, too, that you have all the love you need/want within you. At the very essence of your being is pure love. That love is always there, it’s just a matter of recognizing it. In our everyday busy lives, we don’t stop to think about the love within us, which truly is part of the fabric of our lives. However, the love within all of us is the nucleus of our existence and helps us navigate in life. It’s important to be aware of it, and if you choose to, you can put some thought in this area to help nurture the love within yourself. Don’t forget to share that love with those around you in your immediate family and in your entire world. Don’t let the love within you stay dormant. Share your love with those around you and feel this tremendous emotion on a daily basis, so you don’t feel so needy when you go out into the dating world. 

Affirmations on self-love

I love you.

I am deserving.

I am beautiful.

I am handsome.

I am smart.

I am a child of God.

I am lovable.

Manifest Love

The thought of manifesting love is intriguing to a lot of single people. There is a universal need that everyone on this planet has. That need is to love and to be loved. Of course, love can be found in our family, children and friends. However, the love of a soulmate is priceless and enhances one’s life.

There is a song called, “I knew I loved you before I met you.” The song writers captured the very essence of what I am writing about in this article. This essence comes from positive thinking. Many famous people throughout history have written about positive visualization such as, Norman Vincent Peale, Carl Jung, Dr. David Hawkins, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and a host of others. 

Here are a few lines from the song written by Jones, Daniel/Hayes, Darren Stanley, sung by Savage Garden, 1999.

I know that it might sound more than a little crazy

But I believe…I knew I loved you before I met you 

I think I dreamed you into life 

I knew I loved you before I met you 

I have been waiting all my life 

What the song writer is saying is that the person used positive visualization to visualize their soul mate and actually bring the person of their dreams into their life. This might sound foreign to you, but trust me, from my own experience I know our minds are powerful beyond our wildest dreams. In other words, if you envision the person of your dreams, hold that in your mind; be very loving and kind, then there is a great possibility of connecting to your soul mate.  

This is such a simple concept: to envision the person you want to meet, become that person, put out that energy into the universe and then sit back and wait. The main thing is to do it on a daily basis.          

Positive Visualization

The first thing you want to do to manifest love is to write down the type of partner you are looking for, from personality, to their appearance, their face, hair, eyes, height, attributes, moral values, etc. See everything about this person in your mind. Visualize where you are, what you are doing, how this person smells, talks and laughs. There is no right or wrong way to do this, let it come naturally as you visualize the person of your dreams.

Now that you have a picture of the person you want to manifest, sit back and visualize this person and include what you feel while putting out this positive visualization. What I mean is think back to a time when you were totally in love and recreate those feelings in your visualization. The feelings are a big part of the manifestation. This is a powerful way to manifest love into your life. Simply visualize the person of your dreams, feel how loving this person is, and do this before you fall asleep each night, so it gets imbedded in your subconscious mind for 8 hours of sleep. Let these thoughts permeate your mind. We navigate in life with our subconscious mind therefore, putting this visualization in our subconscious thoughts is powerful. When you awake the next day, you will feel positive, but you will subconsciously navigate your life in a way that will allow you the opportunity to meet your future partner. I would suggest doing this visualization for at least 30 days.

Affirmations for Manifesting Love

Affirmations will help you continue to move in a positive direction in manifesting love. Here are some suggested affirmations for manifesting love:

I attract only healthy relationships.

I am thankful for all the love in my life.

I am in a joyous, intimate relationship with a person who loves me.

I am happy with a new relationship in my life.

My new partner is wonderful and is my soulmate.

I draw love and romance into my life now.

I am ecstatic that my manifestation of a soulmate is here.

You can say the above affirmations or use your own. The key is to say as many as you can daily. You can also post them on little stickers around your house as a reminder to say them.

Join the Single World

Now that you put all this energy out into the world, it’s time to move forward in ways that will help you attract your soulmate. I would suggest moving in a positive direction to places you can meet single people. Perhaps join a single meetup group in your area. Or go to a singles dance or take up dance lessons. Join a group of like-minded people, like a writing group or a singles travel group. Perhaps your place of worship has a singles meeting or maybe you can start one. Put yourself out there in areas where you have the opportunity to meet new single people. This will increase your chances of meeting your soulmate.

Gratitude

If you followed the above outline, it is time to let go of the outcome and stay in a state of gratitude. Be grateful for all the love you currently have in your life and sit back and wait in gratitude. It’s important to also be grateful for the love that may be coming into your life in the future, as if it is already here. For instance, you can resonate with the thought that I am grateful my soulmate is here. Just stay in a complete state of gratitude.

Studies have shown that feeling thankful can improve sleep, mood and immunity. Gratitude can decrease depression, anxiety, difficulties with chronic pain and risk of disease.

In conclusion, the ideas and theories above are worth trying. I do wish you love and much happiness as you keep moving forward in a positive manner in your quest to manifest love.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. Become a Magnet for True Love. This is valuable spiritual handbook for dating.

True Love vs Infatuation. What is Relationship Chemistry?

I have always been intrigued with the word, chemistry or infatuation, to a point where I did a ton of research and wrote an article a few years ago on relationship chemistry. I want to explain what physical chemistry in a relationship entails. Additionally, I will explore true love vs infatuation and intense chemistry signs.

What is the chemistry of infatuation, you know, that high intense electricity between a man and woman? Have you ever met someone and in an instant you felt head over heals in love? Is it true love or infatuation? If you want to attract your soulmate in life, you want the love to grow slowly, not have a high intense chemistry upon meeting this person. That would be toxic and not love at all, but infatuation. Let’s explore the types of chemistry in a relationship and true love vs infatuation.

Here is my relationship chemistry definition in scientific terms:

“High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction in the infatuation stage. These chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia.”

These chemicals make us feel euphoric, so why wouldn’t we want to feel this in a relationship? Well, the answer to that question may surprise you.

Have you ever been mesmerized by a man/woman you just met with a high intense chemistry? Is it merely infatuation, a strong shot of chemistry, or true love? Did Cupid shoot his arrow bringing you true love forever or is this perhaps toxic?

Actually, infatuation and chemistry are essentially the same thing. And they are a very, very long way from real love.

According to Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in his book, Keeping the Love You Find, chemistry or infatuation is actually an attraction to a person who combines:

• The worst traits of our parents or childhood care takers to infatuate us

• The negative traits that infatuate us and we possess but deny in ourselves

• The traits that we find infatuating but have been repressed in us by our upbringing

• The infatuating traits that society denies our gender

That person who infatuates us is, in fact, the last thing we consciously want. So, beware if you meet someone who reminds you of your mother or father because this could very well be a toxic start to a relationship.

Hendrix says we all seek our "Imago image," that is an unconscious image of the person our childhood programmed us to fall in love with or become infatuated with. The Imago is like a homing device that drives us to repeat ourselves, choosing over and over the facsimiles of our caretakers' worst traits. This explains why many of us continually meet the same type of man/woman when we are dating.

When we find ourselves saying, "You're just like my father or mother," this person who infatuates us is our Imago match.

For example, a man who is seeking a kind woman, just like the one that married his dad, is attracted to a woman at a party. Infatuation strikes! Why? He is unconsciously attracted to the way the woman strikes a pose or her manner of speaking; the way she is so pleasing and kind. He begins a conversation and infatuation strikes them both.

She is unconsciously attracted to his power and his take-charge air of authority. In short, he reminds her of her father, a no-nonsense, masculine type. You know, the one she could never please. He protectively puts his arm around her; she nestles his head on his shoulder. Together they contemplate true love and happiness forever. Love? No, chemistry and infatuation, yes!

We also seek an imago who possesses traits of our "Denied Self." These are negative traits from our parents that we cannot bear to recognize in our own behavior.

Hendrix states, "The anger that is so unsettling in your partner was unconsciously chosen by you not only because it reminds you of your mother, but to substitute for the anger you cannot admit to in yourself. Your perception of that anger is at least in part a projection onto your partner of your own inadmissible anger."

By choosing a partner with the traits we deny in ourselves such as compassion or courage, we can be a whole person without having to take responsibility for aspects of ourselves that make us uncomfortable. We seek in another person those traits that have been repressed in ourselves and steal them into our own personality.

Love has to develop over time, and is not something that happens in a week, or even a few months. Time is the answer to all our questions on love. Therefore, give your relationship time to settle into a long- lasting commitment, so it is healthy. You also want to build a foundation of trust and communication in friendship. The friendship stage is crucial to building a loving relationship.

Let’s explore healthy love. The short definition for the word "love" from on-line dictionary is as follows: 

A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.

What does the word love mean for you? 

A very wise Deacon said this about love on a retreat I attended:
"There is a universal need to love and to be loved."

Every person on this planet has a need to love and to be loved.

The following meaning of love and friendship came out of the retreat as well.

Love:  A desire to share your life with someone who is good and work for that person’s welfare and happiness.

Friendship: A deeply close relationship between two people with great trust strongly discovering the goodness and love in each other. 

I think if you combine both definitions, love and friendship as indicated above, you will have a great definition of love combined.

My definition of love is: Love is when you feel a joy and excitement when you are around each other, with a deep friendship, respect, communication, trust and a mutual desire to make each other happy. For me, communication is the key to a healthy relationship.

I asked my good friend Janet what makes her and Mark’s 50-year marriage work? This is what she wrote back to me:  "Mark and I discussed your query and we came up with this quote (mostly his)."

"The basic ingredient in our 50-year marriage is a love relationship based on mutual respect for each other. A couple who truly love and respect each other could never intentionally hurt each other’s feelings in word or action. Communication is also key. In addition, God has always been an important part of our marriage and our children's upbringing.”

In conclusion, love has to be nurtured and develops over time in a relationship. Infatuation or chemistry feels amazing; however, it is not healthy and it usually will not last. And when it wears off, one will seek it with another partner. Relationship chemistry is an illusion, in a sense that it appears to be quite amazing and yet it is toxic in a new relationship. One should run for the hills if they find themselves head over heels over someone. And…if you have high chemistry and the person you met does not, well, you have a recipe for disaster and heartache. It’s okay to have an attraction and some chemistry, but it is the high intense chemistry that is unhealthy.

Therefore, let your relationship grow in friendship and then in love over time and nurture it together with lots of respect, kindness, love and communication.

Rachel Devine is the author of the book, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. Become a Magnet for True Love. A valuable handbook for dating.

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Online Dating Tips - Rachel Devine

Online dating has become the most popular way to meet a potential partner. The convenience alone is a plus for most people. There are several different online dating sites that I will briefly cover, however, your internet profile is the key to connecting with someone you are compatible with. I will give you some dating profile examples, as well as show you how to write a dating profile. I will also cover dating site profile headlines and handles. I will also give you some very good online dating tips. I will also outline dating profile bio examples for males and examples of dating profiles for females. Finding true love can be exhausting, however, these tips should help you along your journey to finding true love.

Internet Dating Sites:

There are several internet dating sites that you can pay for. JDate is an on-line dating site for Jewish singles. There is Our Time, another online dating site for people over 50 years old. Catholic Match has a dating website for Catholic singles. Match.com is another on-line dating site for all types of single people.  

Then you have the free Internet dating sites. The most popular one is Plenty of Fish. There are paid sites and free sites, which one is better? It stands to reason that the paid sites have more serious daters than the free sites, although usually the same people on the paid sites are also on the free site. You might be better off with a paid site, but either way, you really need to adhere to boundaries to keep yourself safe. There are scammers on whatever site you choose.

Internet dating can be challenging, to say the least. My best advice regarding Internet dating would be to keep it light, don’t spend a lot of time with it, and keep your search diversified. What I mean by that is, do other things to meet people. You can meet people at a dance, on a meetup event or at a church event. Keep your options open.

 You can search until you are blue in the face, but when you meet your soul mate, chances are it will be suddenly, quite unexpectedly and not within your control. This is called fate or perhaps cupid striking with purpose. We can plan on meeting someone soon, or at a dance, or off the Internet, but quite often it just happens randomly; perhaps in a supermarket, a park, or a gas station. The more positive energy you put into the universe the better chance you have of connecting with a good match. The key is not to get discouraged by Internet dating, the dances, and all the rejection one might encounter. If a guy/woman doesn’t connect with you, then move on. They were just not a good match. It’s not easy to feel rejected.

Your internet profile is extremely important to connect with others. Let’s start with your dating profile pictures.

Dating Profile Pictures:

I would say a rule of thumb is not to put up a picture that is older than six months. Just put your best pictures up where you are smiling, and if you have pictures having fun in some areas of life, by all means use those pictures, too. For instance, a fun shot at a barbecue or the beach is great. Men and women are visual creatures. You should have at least two bust shots where your face is very clear. Additionally, two full shots, meaning a picture of you from head to toe. If you don’t have a picture, many people will not respond to your emails. It’s that simple. I always feel if a guy doesn’t have a picture up he could be married. I prefer to contact men with pictures.

Dating site profile headline:

Let’s explore your dating site headline. This is the one line men/women will see before anything else. You want it to reflect your personality in some way to indicate what you are seeking. Always keep it in a positive tone. I will list a few that I have seen on sites that are good.

•       What a difference a date makes 

•       Seeking true love

•       Looking for my last first date

•       Beach walker

•       Pilot to co-pilot 

•       Let’s dance 

I saw a very disturbing, negative headline recently that said, “We are all going to die anyway.” Now, this might have been a dark, sarcastic, joke of a headline, but I would say keep your headline in a positive light. Come up with your own unique headline. 

Dating Site Profile Handle:

The next thing you need is a handle. This is the name that will pop up and the user name you will use to sign onto the Internet dating site.  Here are a few typical examples; try to use one that suits your personality:

•       Joe1965

•       SassyChic

•       Peacefultimes

•       Dancing Queen 

•       Lookingforyou

Try to make this your own so it reflects your intention or personality.

Examples of Dating Profile for Females:

The write-up and the pictures are the main focus of your profile, but in all honesty, a lot of people just look at the picture to determine if they will email someone. However, some do read profiles. I had a mediocre write-up and just a head shot picture of myself and a picture of my dog, and I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t getting any hits when I started internet dating. This was not a very productive profile. Let’s explore my profile and how I made it become more successful.

I know some people who have professionals write-up their profiles and have professional photos taken. That is a choice you can make, but I think with a little knowledge, a good write-up is easy to do yourself. 

Now, the write-up. I am going to list two different ones and then elaborate on why the second one is better. 

“My friends would describe me as an easy person to get along with. I have a keen sense of humor and I don’t sweat the small stuff. I am humorous, adventurous, romantic, intuitive and spontaneous. I live a healthy life-style and I tend to lean toward organic foods. I exercise daily. I am in search for my best friend that can grow into a monogamous relationship. I want to meet someone who is confident enough to kick up his feet and show the child in him, yet a real respectful, fun gentleman at heart.” 

Revised & revamped dating profile with added information:

“My friends would describe me as an easy person to get along with. I have a keen sense of humor and I don’t sweat the small stuff. I am humorous, adventurous, romantic, intuitive and spontaneous. I live a healthy life-style and I tend to lean toward organic foods.  I am in search for my best friend that can grow into a monogamous relationship. 

My nature is generous, and I put a lot of time and effort into the man that is in my life with indulgences like arranging a nice candlelight dinner or a small unexpected gift. I put quality time into a relationship to help it nurture and grow into a healthy union. The foundation is built on trust, honesty and open communication. 

The man that would fit into my lifestyle would be confident, fun, and have a great sense of humor, with a respectful, kind personality.” 

Now, here is the key. The important difference in profile number 2 is that the focus is also on the guy, and not just on what the woman is all about. It conveys what she can contribute to the relationship and to him. Trust me when I tell you this is imperative to having a good write-up. When a man reads your profile and sees the way you will treat him, you are more likely to get a response. Of course, this all depends on whether he got past the pictures and actually reads your profile. Most profiles are a litany of the character traits the person possesses, but do not mention what one can contribute to the relationship and to their potential partner.

This gives you an edge. You want your profile to stand out among the crowd. It’s a competitive dating world out there, thousands upon thousands of men and women trying to find that one needle in the haystack. 

Now, the same holds true in reverse. If I read a man’s profile and he says he is a gentleman, opens the door, and treats a woman with the respect and kindness she deserves, that is a good indication of his personality. I want to connect with him, because he just said a lot of the things I am looking for that truly resonate for me and makes me feel like I want to meet him. 

Dating Profile example for a male:

I have a deep passion for adventure, my nature is generous and I have a great sense of humor. I enjoy having fun and keeping things light. I like finding new bistros or neighborhood restaurants to explore with you. 

I genuinely believe a woman should be treated with the utmost respect. I open doors, buy little gifts, and like spending good quality time with the woman who is in my life. I think there needs to be give and take in any relationship, with a good balance of honesty and respect. You should message me if you want an old-school romantic courtship. 

This profile lists several ways the man would contribute to the relationship, rather than just a list of a dozen things the man likes to do. In essence, the profile is conveying the message that says, “I am going to be part of making the relationship work.” And that equates to a man who is serious about a committed relationship. 

Online Dating First Message Example: 

The next step is to search out someone you want to send a message to. Personalizing your message will show you are interested and really did read the profile. Try to stay away from form-letter messages. They are very impersonal, and not a lot of effort is put into copying and pasting the same message. Also, try to only message people you are truly interested in, and not just grab a few without reading their profile and send messages in hopes that the quantity will bring you some results. Quantity is not quality, and you want to attract someone of interest.

A good message would be one where you take one or two qualities or things the other person likes to do and connect with that.

Here is a good first online dating message. You want to keep it simple, point out some common interests, which shows you read the profile and offer him/her to read your profile:

How are you? I see we have some things in common, like going to museums and traveling. I also like live bands. I liked reading your profile and find you interesting. Please check out my profile and see if the feeling is mutual. Maria

A friend of mine relayed these internet dating exchanges that I thought was interesting.

Maria wrote: 

How are you? I see we have a lot in common. I also like to have fun and I like to go out dancing. I have an amazing singing voice, it would be awesome to harmonize with you. Maria

Note, he put in his profile he likes harmonizing and has a great singing voice, so Maria responded to that. 

Jerry wrote back: 

Maria, 

“I apologize for the delay in getting back to you and am honored and flattered that you're interested! I know how hard it is to "put yourself out there." Dating is weird and online dating sites even weirder, and I've been reading your note, your profile and looking at your pics the last few days. You've said many of the "right" things but, for whatever reason, I'm just not feeling the connection. Strange how this works sometimes. I wish you the best of luck in your search for a terrific guy to harmonize with!”

Maria’s response: 

“Thanks for the note. I didn’t realize one could tell if there is a connection without meeting. A picture and some words cannot replace a warm smile, chemistry, the fragrant scent of another, or the connective dialogue. I am amazed, and yet not surprised. How do you really know you didn’t pass up the one? Just food for thought. In any case, I do appreciate your honesty.” Maria

My initial thought on this was that this man was decent enough to respond and I was actually impressed with his dating etiquette. He is a true gentleman. However, in my world, I find that meeting someone gives clarity to the connection with each other. Of course, he didn’t feel that way and I respect his feelings. I am sure there will be varying opinions on this. My take on it is that I like to go on one date/meeting with someone before ruling them out, provided I like their profile.

After two or three messages the man should initiate a phone call and if that goes well a first date. If that doesn’t happen and there seems to be endless messages, chances are the person is not ready to date or could be a scammer. At that point, you may want to move on.

In conclusion, internet dating can be a convenient and easy way to connect with people. However, there are pitfalls with any type of dating. Therefore, I would keep in mind that diversifying your search with face-to-face meetings like at a dance or a singes social event, is key to putting yourself out there in varioius ways and gives you better odds of connecting with someone who is just right for you.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. Become a Magnet for True Love. This is a valuable handbook for dating.

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First Date Advice

You conquered the online dating or you met someone at an event and now you have your first date. First dates can be intimidating. Our minds replay other failed first dates and convince us, before we leave the gate, that this one will be the same. Don’t fall into that negative way of thinking. Each first date is as different as there are grains of sand.

I will give you some good first date advice for guys, as well as first date advice for ladies, in order to help you navigate your next first date.

Your State of Mind is Everything: You want to go into your first date with a positive state of mind. What I used to do is view the first date simply as meeting a new friend for the first time. It takes the pressure off of the typical first date jitters. It brings one to a calm and more manageable feeling of peace. Just view your first date as a time when you are meeting a new friend for the first time. If it works out that there is a mutual interest for a second date, that is great, if not you met a new friend.

Meet at the designated place: Always meet at the place you both decide on. Don’t get into his or her car. You really don’t know the other person and you are asking for trouble. I have a friend who allowed a man to pick her up and wound up getting attacked in his car. I also have a male friend who had an incident in a car with a woman. I can’t stress enough how dangerous getting in someone’s car can be. Keep yourself safe and let someone know who you are meeting and where you are meeting. It’s just a safety measure that in this day and age is wise.

Dress to Impress: First impressions are lasting impressions. You want to dress to impress. I suggest you wear an outfit that is flattering and makes you feel comfortable and confident. Don’t overdo it. Business casual is usually fine for a coffee date or even a dinner date. Or a nice pair of jeans with a trendy shirt.

Meeting: If you are meeting for lunch, dinner or just drinks, don’t over-do drinking. I went out with a guy who had 4 beers in less than 2 hours on a Saturday afternoon and honestly made me very uncomfortable. If you are nervous about the date, drinking will only make it worse. I say, moderation in everything, especially on a first date. Some people like short coffee dates in case there is no connection. And others like to have dinner on a first date.

First Date Conversation Tips: What to talk about on a first date? There are some general rules on first date conversation. One is, never mention your ex-partner. Second one is, don’t dominate the conversation. Try to make it balanced and easy flowing. Don’t bombard your date with a litany of questions. Keep it casual. As a rule of thumb, keep the conversation on a positive note. You don’t want to talk about a recent death in the family or a tragic accident or work issues. You want to get to know each other and see if there are common interests, so steer the conversation in that direction.

Communication after the date: If you had a good time you can convey that by text or a phone call the next day. It’s nice to relay a thank you note. However, if you are not interested in the person, you can be upfront and just say, it was so nice meeting you, not sure we are a good match, I wish you the best. Or we can be friends if you like. Whatever you decide, I maintain being upfront and honest is the best policy. If you both clicked and decide to go on a 2nd date, that would be a bonus.

Dating Etiquette: When the date ends, usually there is some connection, whether it is a hug, a kiss on the cheek or a regular kiss. Or you can just say, “I enjoyed our time together, have a good night.” I always let the man take the lead here, although women like to also be in the lead role. However, a good relationship is when a man is allowed to be the masculine energy and convey that energy on a date. And guys, if you like the woman then you can go in for a kiss or a hug, but if you don’t plan on seeing her again, that would give off mixed messages. In the end, the man should be the one to make a move, if he chooses to.

In conclusion, I want to say, I can’t emphasize enough, that the key to a great first date is your state of mind. Being positive will reap positive results. Negativity will reap a negative first date. Therefore, go into your first date relaxed, confident and positive and remember, you are meeting a new friend for the first time.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack. Become a Magnet for True Love. This is a valuable handbook for dating.

Dating Advice and the Best Dating Book

So, you started dating and all of a sudden culture shock sets in. You didn’t expect all the drama, chaos and confusion. You just want to date, however, there are so many obstacles you have to jump over just to get a date, that it makes your head spin. You might ask yourself, what is going on with dating these days?

Well, dating is quite a trip for those who are new to it, and even for those who are veterans. Now you are in search of fun ways to date. Perhaps you want to get the best book for dating and relationships or a deeper dating book, which can help you forge ahead with clarity. Perhaps you need a dater’s handbook. I would imagine you want to get your hands on a book that will give you some good dating advice.

Let’s explore some ideas on dating advice and I will introduce you to the best dating advice book.

Define what you are Seeking: In order to find what you want, it is important to define what you are seeking. Some people just want to date, some want to get married, some want to get married and have children. Then there are those who want a serious relationship, while others might just want to have a friend with benefits. It’s very important to define what you are seeking, so you know exactly what to look for. Also, ask yourself if you are ready to date. That is a big question one must answer before proceeding with success.

Dump the Baggage: It’s very easy to say dating is hard and put the blame on others, when in actuality, the only person you have control over is yourself. Therefore, looking at yourself to see what part you play in the drama of dating is imperative. If you just got out of a relationship, then chances are you are not ready to date. Being able to look at your last relationship and any issues that came out of it, is important to move forward in a healthy way. If your ex-partner cheated on you, you very well could be resonating with trust issues. On the other hand, if your ex-partner was verbally abusive, then your self-esteem may be low. Or if your ex-partner ghosted you, you may be carrying around some fears from the last relationship. It’s important to evaluate what went on in that relationship, recognize what you might be holding onto and work on releasing those emotions before moving forward with dating. If you don’t work on the issues that came from the last relationship, you will bring those issues into your new relationship and it will fail before it even gets off the ground.

Healthy boundaries: If you were able to process the above, then you are ready to move forward with dating. You should know what you want, assure you are emotionally ready to obtain this and have worked through any issues from your past relationship. Setting healthy boundaries with online dating, and dating in general, will help you move forward in a more settled manner. Make a list of deal breakers and if the person you want to date breaks one, then you know that person is not for you. For instance, you might not tolerate someone who says they will call and doesn’t call. Or you may not tolerate someone online who starts off the bat with sexual innuendos. Or maybe a person who is separated is a red flag for you. This will save you a lot of drama and stress going forward. Also, make a list of attributes you want in a partner to further define what you are seeking.

Your Internet profile: Just a couple of pointers for a good internet profile. Do not put any pictures up that are over a year old. For guys, no pictures of bare chest. For woman, I would stay away from sexually provocative clothing. You want to add a few bust shots and one or two full length pictures. Pictures of you having fun are always good to put on a profile. Furthermore, keep your profile story about yourself brief, to approximately 2 or 3 short paragraphs. Incorporate things you like to do in your story that makes you interesting and highlights who you are. Once you make contact, the guy should ask to call you and have a conversation after 2 or 3 email exchanges. If that doesn’t happen, that is a red flag. If you don’t want to give your number out, you can always call the guy first. You can use *67 before his number to make your number private.

Scammers: These days, there are more internet scammers than ever. Do not ever give anyone your email address or phone number unless you trust them. If a scammer gets your email address my understanding, is they can overtake your computer. If a guy wants to go on WhatsApp or another site like that, chances are they are a scammer. A scammer is usually a person posing as a widow or widower, who has a child and is either an engineer or works on an oil rig or overseas in some capacity. Furthermore, if you do talk to one, they usually have a foreign accent. Be very careful, they are very tricky. They hook you emotionally and then try to bilk money out of you. If a guy or gal is already telling you how wonderful you are and how they can have a loving life of bliss with you within a day or two, chances are they are a scammer.

Successful dating: To recap, define what you are seeking in the world of dating. Then look at your last relationship and assure you worked out any issues that may have come out of it. Evaluate yourself and assure you are emotionally ready to date. Have a list of deal breakers, as well as a list of attributes you are looking for in a partner. Polish your internet profile. And keep an eye out for scammers.

In conclusion, these are some good dating tips on how to have a successful dating experience, without the drama and chaos. However, you are part of the journey. Try to have fun with dating. Afterall, dating should be fun, exciting and rewarding and remember, your state of mind determines a good portion of the outome.

Rachel Devine is the author of a valuable dater’s handbook called, “Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack - Become a Magnet for True Love ”

The Dangers of Online Dating: Scams, Red Flags, and How to Stay Safe - Rachel Devine

Online dating has become increasingly popular over the last decade, with a growing number of people relying on the internet to find love or meet new people. However, we will explore the dangers of online dating that users need to be aware of. This article will explore online dating scams, red flags to look out for, and online dating tips to stay safe. We will also examine the pros and cons of online dating, as well as its success rates for different age groups. Is online dating worth it? This article will answer this question along with most online dating questions most people have. So, let’s dive right into it.

I. Dating Scams

One of the major dangers of online dating is falling victim to scams. Scammers often create fake profiles to lure unsuspecting users into giving them money or personal information. Some common online dating scams include:

1. Romance scams: Scammers pretend to be interested in a romantic relationship to gain the victim's trust and ultimately ask for money or personal information.

2. Catfishing: Scammers create a fake online persona to manipulate and deceive people into emotional or romantic relationships.

3. Phishing: Scammers use fake profiles to send messages with links to malicious websites that try to collect your personal information.

4. Scammers: A scammer will gain your trust, hook you emotionally with a lot of romantic talk, and then create a scenario where they are stranded somewhere and in need of money. Scammers typically ask you to send them an i-tunes or google gift card and ask for the numbers on the back.

5. Email fraud: If someone immediately wants your email, don’t give it to them. They can hack your email and take over your account. They will usually say, it’s more convenient to email. You are on a dating site and that communication is a lot safer than giving your email out.

II. Dating Red Flags

To avoid falling victim to scams or manipulative people, it's important to be aware of red flags when dating online. Some warning signs include:

1. The person's profile is too good to be true or lacks personal information. Or they are oil diggers, engineers or overseas on a job. Scammers are typically widowed with a child or two.

2. They ask for money or personal information too quickly.

3. They avoid meeting in person or video calls.

4. They express strong feelings for you very early in the relationship.

5. They have poor grammar and spelling, which may indicate a scammer from a non-English speaking country.

6. If you do talk on the phone, usually a scammer will have a foreign accent.

7. If you get the scammers phone number and do an online search and it doesn’t come up with any

   name, chances are it’s a google phone number that is not traceable.

III. Dating Tips to Stay Safe

1. Protect your personal information: Don't share your full name, address, or phone number until you feel comfortable with the person. If you get their phone number, call back with a private number, by dialing *67 before your number. To get the last callers number use *69.

2. Use a reputable dating site or app with robust security features.

3. Research your match: Look for them on social media or use a reverse image search to verify their identity. If you put their photo on google, you might get some information on that person.

4. Meet in public places for the first few dates and tell a friend or family member where you're going.

5. Trust your instincts: If something feels off, it's better to be cautious. Your instincts are always right.

   IV. Dating Sites that may be safer:

   1. eHarmony: eHarmony uses a comprehensive personality test to match users and employs a dedicated team to monitor and remove suspicious profiles. Although the pool of daters is very small on eHarmony.

   2. Match.com: Match.com has a robust reporting system and employs a team of moderators to review reported profiles and take appropriate action. Although I have come across scammers on this site.

   3. Bumble: Bumble requires users to verify their profile with a photo, and it allows only women to initiate contact with matches, which can help reduce the risk of scams.

   4. Hinge: Hinge encourages users to share more personal information through its prompts, which can help weed out fake profiles. It also has a reporting system for suspicious accounts.

   5. EliteSingles: EliteSingles uses a detailed personality test and manual profile verification to ensure its users are genuine and serious about finding a relationship.

   Some platforms have experimented with additional verification methods, such as using a driver's license or other government-issued identification, to confirm the user's identity. However, these methods are not yet widespread due to privacy concerns and potential legal issues.

   While no dating site can guarantee complete protection from scammers, using platforms with strict security measures and being vigilant about potential red flags can help you have a safer online

V. Is Online Dating Worth It?

Pros:

1. Access to a larger pool of potential partners.

2. Ability to connect with people who share similar interests and values.

3. Convenient and efficient way to meet new people.

4. Allows people with limited social circles to find potential partners.

Cons:

1. Risk of encountering scams and manipulative people.

2. Profiles may not accurately represent the person.

3. Can lead to superficial connections based on appearance.

4. Time-consuming and potentially addictive.

VI. Success Rates of Online Dating

Some hopeful information is the success rate of online dating:

1. People under 40: Online dating tends to be more successful for younger people, as they are more likely to be tech-savvy and open to meeting people online. Research has shown that approximately 40% of couples aged 18-39 met online in recent years.

2. People over 40: While online dating can be successful for those over 40, it may be more challenging due to a smaller pool of potential matches and possible technological barriers. However, studies have found that around 20% of couples aged 40 and older met online, suggesting that it can still be an effective way to find love for this age group.

VII. Free Dating Sites:

Free dating sites are infested with scammers. It is difficult to provide a precise percentage of scammers on Plenty of Fish (POF) or any other dating site, as this information is typically not publicly available and can change over time. The number of scammers on a dating platform can vary depending on factors such as the site's user base, security measures, and overall popularity.

As a free dating site, POF may attract a higher number of scammers than paid platforms with stricter verification processes. However, POF has implemented security measures, such as photo verification and automated systems to detect suspicious behavior, to combat scammers.

To minimize your risk of encountering scammers on POF or any other dating platform, it's important to be vigilant and follow safe online dating practices. Be cautious about sharing personal information, be wary of profiles that seem too good to be true, and report any suspicious behavior to the platform's moderators.

Keep in mind that no dating site can completely eliminate the risk of encountering scammers, but being aware of potential red flags and using reputable platforms can help you have a safer online dating experience.

One terrible example of online dating scam is this story. Deborah Montgomery Johnson was a widow, looking for new love after the death of her husband. She logged onto a dating site, then fell head over heels for an international man of mystery and was tricked into sending him north of a million dollars.

She thought the new boyfriend was British, a world traveler, a Christian of great integrity. Turned out, "he" was never real and a team of computer savvy Nigerians was pulling her strings the whole time.

In conclusion, online dating can be a valuable tool for meeting new people, but it's important to be aware of the potential dangers and red flags associated with it. By following safety tips and using reputable platforms, users can reduce their risk and enjoy a more positive online dating experience. A

Rachel Devine is the author of Lesson from the Needle in a Haystack & The Third Road.

Rachel’s online course, How to Attract your Soulmate, gives extensive details on attracting the person of your dreams.

Dating After 60: Navigating the World of Romance

While dating after 60 may seem daunting, it is becoming increasingly common as life expectancy increases and societal views on relationships evolve. This in-depth article will discuss the success rate of online dating after 60, the barriers and benefits of dating at this stage of life, and how to make it easier to connect with someone. We'll also share some heartwarming examples of people who found love after 60. Please note, your chances of finding love at 60 can be just as high as being 40, with a positive attitude and knowledge. Falling in love at 60 is possible.

Success Rate of Online Dating After 60

Online dating for individuals aged 65 and older has a significantly lower success rate than for younger age groups, with only 4% finding a long-term partner or spouse. However, 13% of this demographic have tried online dating, indicating that there is still interest in finding love later in life. Specialized dating platforms, such as OurTime and SilverSingles, cater to this age group and may increase the likelihood of finding a compatible match.

Barriers to Dating After 60

1. Smaller social circles: As people age, their social circles often shrink due to retirement, relocation, or the passing of friends and loved ones. This may limit opportunities to meet new people.

2. Health and mobility issues: Aging can bring health challenges and decreased mobility, which can make it difficult to attend social events or engage in activities where one might meet potential partners.

3. Emotional baggage: Many older individuals have experienced the loss of a partner, divorce, or other significant life events, which may create emotional barriers to starting new relationships.

4. Ageism and stereotypes: Society often holds ageist beliefs and stereotypes about older adults, which can discourage them from pursuing romantic relationships.

5. Technological barriers: Some individuals aged 60 and over may feel less comfortable using technology, including online dating platforms, which can hinder their ability to connect with potential partners.

Benefits of Dating After 60

1. Greater self-awareness: With age comes wisdom and a better understanding of oneself, making it easier to know what one wants in a relationship.

2. Emotional maturity: Older individuals often have greater emotional maturity and better communication skills, which can lead to more stable and fulfilling relationships.

3. Financial stability: Many older adults have achieved financial stability, allowing them to focus on finding a partner without the stress of financial concerns.

4. Focus on companionship: Older adults may be more interested in companionship and emotional support, which can lead to more genuine connections.

5. Greater appreciation for time: Older individuals often have a greater appreciation for the time they have left, leading them to prioritize meaningful relationships and experiences.

How to Make It Easier to Connect with Someone After 60

1. Be open to new experiences: Attend social events, join clubs or organizations, and engage in activities that interest you to increase your chances of meeting like-minded people.

2. Embrace technology: Learn how to use online dating platforms, and consider reaching out to friends or family for assistance if needed.

3. Be honest and authentic: When creating an online dating profile, share genuine information about yourself and your interests to attract compatible matches.

4. Practice patience and persistence: Understand that finding a compatible partner may take time, and don't be discouraged by setbacks or rejection.

5. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups to share your experiences and gain encouragement.

6. Become active at your place of worship or even start a singles group there for support.

7. You can try a meetup group online for singles in your age group.

8. Try speed dating. Do a search online to find one near you.

9. Consider traveling with a singles group in your age range.

   Examples of People Who Found Love After 60

1. Susan and Richard: Both widowed, Susan and Richard met through an online dating platform. They bonded over their shared love of travel and eventually married in a small ceremony surrounded by close friends and family.

2. Carol and Paul: Carol, 62, and Paul, 65, met at a dance class. After dating for several months, they took the plunge and got married.

3. A friend of mine was in his late 60’s when he met the woman of his dreams on, OurTime, and they have been happily married for almost 10 years.

   In conclusion, don’t give up on love at any age. My philosophy is if it is meant to be you will connect with somone to fall in love with. Just go with the flow, keep all options open, and move forward with a positive and happy attitude.

4. Rachel Devine is the author of, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack & The Third Road.

How to Attract Money

Attracting money can be a daunting task for many people, but it doesn't have to be. I will show you how to attract money by harnessing the power of affirmations, intention, visualization, and the law of attraction to manifest abundance and wealth into your life. With a little guidance you can attract money into your life. This is how to attract money using mind power.

Affirmations:

Affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves to reinforce positive beliefs and thoughts. By using affirmations, we can shift our focus from lack to abundance and attract more money into our lives. Examples of affirmations for attracting money include "I am worthy of abundance and prosperity," "Money flows to me easily and effortlessly," and "I am open to receiving wealth and prosperity." By repeating these affirmations regularly, we can program our subconscious mind to attract more money into our lives.

Power of Intention:

Intention is a powerful force that can help us attract money into our lives. By setting clear intentions and focusing on our desires, we can create a vibrational match for the abundance and wealth we seek. Examples of intentions for attracting money include "I intend to create wealth and abundance in my life," "I intend to attract financial opportunities that align with my values and purpose," and "I intend to use my money to make a positive impact in the world." By setting clear intentions and focusing our energy on our desires, we can attract the resources and opportunities we need to manifest abundance and wealth. Dr. Wayne Dyer has a book called, The Power of Intention, that I recommend for attracting anything into your life.

Power of Visualization:

Visualization is a technique that involves creating a mental image of the desired outcome. By visualizing ourselves as already having the abundance and wealth we desire, we can create a vibrational match for those desires and attract more money into our lives. Examples of visualization techniques for attracting money include creating a vision board with images of our desired outcomes, imagining ourselves receiving large sums of money, and visualizing ourselves living a life of abundance and financial freedom. By regularly visualizing our desired outcomes, we can program our subconscious mind to attract more money into our lives. It is especially effective if you visualize what you want before you fall asleep and resonate with the feelings of already having financial security.

Law of Attraction:

The law of attraction suggests that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on, whether positive or negative. By focusing on abundance and wealth, we can attract more money into our lives. Examples of using the law of attraction to attract money include practicing gratitude for the money we already have, focusing on the good in our lives, and surrounding ourselves with positive influences and experiences. By aligning our thoughts and emotions with abundance and wealth, we can attract more money into our lives and create the life of our dreams.

Examples of how these methods have worked for others:

Many successful entrepreneurs and business leaders attribute their success to the power of affirmations, intention, visualization, and the law of attraction. For example, Oprah Winfrey has spoken extensively about the power of intention and visualization in her success. She has shared that she regularly sets intentions for her goals and visualizes herself achieving them. Additionally, Jim Carrey has spoken about the power of visualization in his success. He famously wrote himself a $10 million check for "acting services rendered" before he had made it as an actor. Within a few years, he had earned $10 million for his role in Dumb and Dumber.

What authorities say about attracting money into our lives:

Many authorities in the personal development and spiritual communities speak about the power of attracting money into our lives. For example, Louise Hay, author of "You Can Heal Your Life," suggests that we can create abundance and prosperity in our lives by practicing gratitude, affirmations, and visualization. Esther Hicks, spiritual teacher and author, suggests that we can use the law of attraction to manifest anything we desire, including money and wealth. She encourages us to align our thoughts and emotions with our desires and trust that the universe will provide us with what we need.

In conclusion, attracting money into our lives is possible by using affirmations, power of intention, the power of visualization, the law of attraction, and putting the work behind the intention to attract money. All of these ways to manifest money are powerful, however, one must have a game plan to attract money into your life, in order to assure it will happen for you.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

How to Achieve your Goals

Achieving your goals is a challenging but rewarding process that requires discipline, focus, and perseverance. Whether you want to succeed in business, sports, or life in general, there are proven strategies that can help you reach your desired outcome. In this article, we will explore specific examples of how to achieve your goals in business, sports, and life. Here are ways on how to achieve your goals.

Achieving Business Goals

1. Set Clear Goals: The first step in achieving your business goals is to set clear, specific, and measurable objectives. This will help you focus your efforts and track your progress. For example, if your goal is to increase your revenue by 20%, set a specific target and timeframe for achieving this goal.

2. Develop a Plan: Once you have identified your goals, develop a plan of action that outlines the steps you need to take to achieve them. This could include creating a marketing strategy, hiring new staff, or developing new products.

3. Prioritize Tasks: Prioritize your tasks based on their importance and urgency. Focus on the most critical tasks first and allocate your time and resources accordingly.

4. Monitor Progress: Regularly monitor your progress to ensure that you are on track to achieve your goals. Make adjustments as necessary and seek feedback from others to improve your performance.

5. Celebrate Success: Celebrate your successes along the way, no matter how small they may seem. This will help you stay motivated and energized throughout the process.

Achieving Sports Goals

1. Identify Your Goals: To achieve your sports goals, you need to identify specific, measurable objectives. For example, if you want to improve your marathon time, set a target time and work towards achieving it.

2. Create a Training Plan: Develop a training plan that is tailored to your specific goals and needs. This could include endurance training, speed work, and strength training.

3. Track Progress: Regularly track your progress to see how far you have come and what you need to do to achieve your goals. This could include monitoring your times, distances, and other metrics.

4. Get Expert Advice: Seek advice from experts in your sport, such as coaches, trainers, and other athletes. They can provide valuable insights and help you improve your technique and performance.

5. Stay Motivated: Staying motivated is critical to achieving your sports goals. Set small, achievable milestones along the way and reward yourself when you reach them. Also, surround yourself with supportive people who encourage and inspire you.

Achieving Life Goals

1. Identify Your Values: To achieve your life goals, you need to start by identifying your values and priorities. What is most important to you, and what do you want to achieve in life?

2. Create a Vision: Develop a clear and compelling vision of what you want your life to look like. This could include your career, relationships, health, and personal development.

3. Set SMART Goals: Set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound (SMART) goals that align with your vision. This will help you focus your efforts and track your progress.

4. Take Action: Take action towards your goals every day, no matter how small the steps may seem. This will help you build momentum and stay motivated.

5. Learn from Setbacks: Setbacks are a natural part of the process, but it's essential to learn from them and keep moving forward. Reframe setbacks as opportunities for growth and use them to refine your approach and strategy.

The last and most important thing is to visualize the outcome you want. Visualization can be an amazing asset in helping one achieve your goals. Just visualize what you want the outcome to be and resonate with those thoughts. Before you go to sleep at night, see yourself at the end of your goal and resonate with the feelings of acomplishment and success. Go to sleep with these thoughts and feelings of success. These thoughts will be in your subconscious thoughts for 8 hours. Positive visualization, along with the other steps, is a powerful way to help you achieve your goals.

In conclusion, achieving your goals requires discipline, focus, and perseverance. By following the strategies outlined in this article and adapting them to your specific situation, you can achieve your desired outcomes in business, sports, and life. Remember to set clear goals, develop a plan, track your progress, visualize what you want, and stay motivated. With dedication and hard work, you can achieve any goal you set your mind to.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

Positive Visualization (step by step guide)

Positive visualization is a technique that involves creating mental images of desired outcomes and using those images to stimulate positive emotions and motivation. It is a powerful tool that has been used for centuries to help people achieve their goals and improve their lives. In this article, we will explore the origins of positive visualization, explain how to perform it step-by-step, give you positive visualization examples, explain how to do positive visualization meditations and examine the benefits of using positive visualization with statistics on its success. Positive Visualization techniques can help you achieve your goals and dreams.

Origins of Positive Visualization

The practice of positive visualization can be traced back to ancient civilizations such as Greece and Egypt, where athletes would use mental imagery to enhance their performance. In the 19th century, the concept of visualization was popularized by the New Thought movement, which believed that thoughts and emotions could shape one's reality. Today, positive visualization is widely used in sports psychology, personal development, and spiritual practices.

How to Perform Positive Visualization

Positive visualization techniques can be performed in several ways, but here is a simple step-by-step guide:

1. Identify Your Goal: The first step is to identify what you want to achieve. This could be a specific goal, such as running a marathon or getting a promotion, or a more general desire, such as being happier or more confident.

2. Create a Mental Image: Once you have identified your goal, create a mental image of yourself achieving it. Visualize yourself in detail, using all your senses to make the image as vivid and real as possible. For example, if your goal is to run a marathon, imagine yourself crossing the finish line, feeling exhilarated, and hearing the cheers of the crowd.

3. Add Emotion: To make the visualization more powerful, add positive emotions to the image. Imagine how you will feel when you achieve your goal, such as joy, pride, or satisfaction. Focus on these feelings and let them intensify.

4. Repeat: Repeat the visualization regularly, ideally every day. The more you practice, the more effective it will be. You can also vary the image or add new elements to keep it fresh. Also, practice positive visualization before you fall asleep. You will be marinating with the visualization in your mind for 8 hours.

Benefits of Positive Visualization

Positive visualization has numerous benefits, including:

1. Increased Motivation: By visualizing yourself achieving your goals, you can increase your motivation and drive to succeed.

2. Reduced Anxiety: Visualization can help reduce anxiety by creating a positive mental state and reducing negative thoughts.

3. Improved Performance: Athletes and performers have used visualization to enhance their performance by mentally rehearsing their actions and reducing anxiety.

4. Better Health: Visualization has been linked to improved health outcomes, such as lower blood pressure and reduced stress.

5. Enhanced Creativity: Visualization can help tap into your creativity and generate new ideas and solutions.

Success of Positive Visualization

There is a growing body of research on the effectiveness of positive visualization. A study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that visualization improved the performance of basketball players, while a study published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research found that positive visualization before surgery, reduced stress in patients. Another study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people who visualized their goals were more likely to achieve them.

In conclusion, positive visualization is a powerful tool that can help you achieve your goals, reduce anxiety, improve your performance, and enhance your overall well-being. By following the step-by-step guide outlined in this article and practicing regularly, you can harness the power of visualization to create a brighter future for yourself.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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How to Manifest your Dreams

It’s important to reach our highest potential in life to give us meaning. We want to wake up each day and be happy about our dreams. You can manifest the life of your dreams. Manifesting your dreams and goals is not hard. Learning how to achieve your goals and dreams is important. It is part of everyone’s journey in life. Manifesting your dreams into reality will bring you fulfillment and much happiness. I will show you 5 steps on how to achieve your goals. You can achieve all your dreams with awareness and a little guidance.

You might ask yourself, what are my goals examples? Your goals might be to become healthy, lose weight, write a book, start a business, break an addiction, build a business, do volunteer work in a hospice, buy a house, find faith, meet your soulmate, run a marathon, etc. The first step is decide what your goal is. Whatever your goal or dreams are these 3 important questions can help.

Please write these questions down.

1.     Where are you right now with your goal?

2.     Where do you want to be with your goal in a year?

3.     What do you need to do NOW to achieve your goal?  

There are 5 steps that will help you manifest your dreams.

• Positive Affirmations

• Positive Visualization

• Written intention

• Prayer & Meditation

• Game plan

 Let’s dive right into each one.

1.  Positive Affirmations:

Positive affirmations are words and thoughts. The key is to strive to say as many positive affirmations as you can each day. It’s a way to undo negative thoughts that creep up on us from our past. A list of affirmations is designed to motivate us and put out good energy into God’s world and that energy will come back. I have affirmations posted on my refrigerator as a reminder to say them. On the other hand any negative words and thoughts will have the oppositive effect, so try to be mindful of your thoughts and if a negative thought enters your mind replace it with a positive one.

3. Positive Visualization:

There is a book called the power of positive thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. He was a pastor and an advocate for visualization. He has a ton of stories of how positive visualization works.  Simply closing your eyes before you go to sleep at night and visualizing what you want will help you resonate with those thoughts for 8 hours. The subconscious mind will pick it up. Again, we navigate in life with our subconscious mind, just as I did when I went to church after that faint prayer, so visualization is a powerful way to manifest our dreams. If you want to lose weight see yourself at that point where you lost weight. Visualize all aspects and remember to incorporate what you feel like with your success. The feelings count a lot in visualization. If you want to meet your soulmate, create that person in your mind as you fall asleep, see every aspect of that person and feel how that love is resonating for you. You can go back to a time in your life when you were totally in love and recreate those feelings in the visualization. Open your heart and feel that love and how it resonates for you. When you wake up in the morning, those wonderful positive thoughts will start your day off on the right foot.  

4.  Written intention:

A written intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action, or actions, for a future goal and is written out on what you want to obtain. It’s powerful beyond anyone’s imagination in helping us obtain our dreams.  Your written intention goes out into God’s vast universe and that energy does come back. Write out a letter of where you see yourself with your dream in a year. Put all the details into the letter, along with thoughts and feelings. Then put the letter away. You put your intention out there and now you will create a game plan.

4. Prayer & Meditation:

I believe in the power of prayer and meditation. Pray for what you want to manifest in your life. After all, God put that dream in your heart. Prayer is also putting positive energy into God’s ears. Meditation is getting quiet enough to hear God’s whisper within. That whisper within is your higher power speaking to you through intuition. The learn more about this power, my book, The Third Road will guide you.

5. Game plan:

Of course, you also have to have a game plan, a way to map out how you will achieve your goals and dreams. It’s important to really sit down and think about the road that will take you to a successful outcome. Look at how other people achieved their goals and try to learn from their road map.

Try to be grateful for everything you have, and everything you want. Do a gratitude list daily. Make a list of at least 5 things you were grateful for in that day. And also make a list of things you are grateful for that you want in life. Being grateful will bring more goodness into your life.

In closing, remember, you are never too old to have a dream. Louise Hay started a successful publishing company at the age of 58. Judi Dench, famous British actress didn’t achieve fame until she was over 60. At the age of 62 James Parkinson identified Parkinson’s disease. Getting older is like a fine wine, we get better as we age.

If you follow these steps you can manifest your dreams into reality.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

Devine Intervention website has online courses, guides, books and more resources.

Create Your Future - Attract Money, Love & Success

Wouldn’t it be great if you could create the future of your dreams? It would be amazing to attract money, attract love and success. Well, what if I told you it is possible, using the law of attraction techniques and positive visualization, to create your future. The future is in your hands. You do have the power to attract money, attract love and success. Creating your future is a multifaceted process that involves a combination of mindset, action, and strategy. Here are some ways you can use the law of attraction and positive visualization to attract money, love and success into your life, which reaps happiness, and fulfillment.

1. Set clear and specific goals: Clearly define what you want to achieve in each area of your life, and set specific and measurable goals to work towards. This will help you focus your energy and efforts and create a sense of direction. It’s important to know exactly what you want so you can put that request out into the universe and attract it into your life.

2. Use positive visualization: Visualization is a powerful tool for manifesting your desires. Take time each day to visualize yourself already having achieved your goals, and imagine what it feels like to be successful, wealthy, loved, happy, and fulfilled. When you fall asleep at night, resonate with the feeling of being successful, or wealthy or having love in your life. The thoughts before bedtime marinate in your subconscious mind, which is the part of the brain that is the commander. We navigate with our subconscious mind, so filling it with positive visualizations at bedtime is priceless in obtaining what you want in life.

3. Law of Attraction: The law of attraction is a simple concept. The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative results. Putting out positive energy on a daily basis through affirmations and words is powerful. Just write out some affirmations and say them out loud daily as often as possible. This is the law of attraction technique to draw good and positive things into your life. Here are some affirmation examples:

   Money is constantly flowing into my life

   My income is constantly increasing

   I am in a loving soulful relationship

   Love flows into my life effortlessly

   My business is successful

   My website is flowing with traffic

4. Practice gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful emotion that can help you attract more of what you want in your life. Take time each day to express gratitude for the things you already have and the progress you've made towards your goals. Also, be grateful for the things you see yourself having in the future and act as if they are already in your life. Being grateful for future goals is one of the keys to attracting them into your life.

5. Take inspired action: While visualization and positive thinking are essential, taking action is also crucial for creating your future. Take small, consistent steps towards your goals every day, and stay open to opportunities that come your way. Have a game-plan to make your dreams a reality and create the future you deserve.

6. Surround yourself with positivity: Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who encourage and uplift you. This can help you maintain a positive mindset and attract more positive experiences into your life. Negative people who complain all the time will bring you down. You want to be around friends and family that lift you up.

7. Let go of limiting beliefs: Often, limiting beliefs and negative self-talk can hold us back from achieving our goals. Identify and challenge these limiting beliefs and replace them with positive affirmations that support your vision for the future. Positive affirmations are essential to igniting the law of attraction into your life.

Remember, creating your future is a journey that requires time, patience, and persistence. By adopting a positive mindset and taking inspired action towards your goals, you can attract money, love, success, happiness, and fulfillment into your life.

Rachel Devine is the author of

The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack

Rachel is also a life coach

How to find my Purpose in Life Test

Finding a test to bring awareness to attributes that will help you decide what you want to do in life, or how to find your purpose, is priceless. It gives one a better understanding of who you are and what you want to do with your life. This is important at any age. You might ask yourself, what is my purpose in life test? The Carl Jung test is designed to help you discover what your purpose is in life. So let’s explore who Carl Jung was and a little about the Carl Jung typology test. The test will help you answer that age-old question, what is my purpose in life?

Carl Jung (1875-1961) was a Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who founded analytical psychology. He was a student of Sigmund Freud but eventually developed his own theories, emphasizing the importance of the unconscious mind and the role of spirituality and mysticism in human psychology. Jung's work focused on understanding the complex relationship between the individual and the collective unconscious, and how this relationship shapes our personalities, behaviors, and motivations.

One of Jung's most enduring contributions to psychology is his theory of personality types. According to Jung, every individual has a unique psychological makeup that can be classified into one of several broad categories. These categories are based on the ways in which we perceive the world and make decisions, and they are thought to be relatively stable throughout our lives.

Jung's typology is based on four main dimensions:

1. Extraversion (E) vs. Introversion (I)

2. Sensing (S) vs. Intuition (N)

3. Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F)

4. Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P)

The first dimension, Extraversion vs. Introversion, refers to the source of an individual's energy. Extraverts tend to draw energy from social interactions and external stimuli, while introverts tend to find these things draining and prefer solitude or quieter activities.

The second dimension, Sensing vs. Intuition, refers to how we perceive information. Sensing types tend to rely on their five senses and prefer concrete, factual information, while intuitive types tend to rely on their instincts and prefer abstract, symbolic information.

The third dimension, Thinking vs. Feeling, refers to how we make decisions. Thinking types tend to rely on logic and objective criteria, while feeling types tend to rely on subjective values and emotions.

The fourth dimension, Judging vs. Perceiving, refers to how we approach life. Judging types tend to be structured, decisive, and prefer to have a plan, while perceiving types tend to be flexible, spontaneous, and open to new experiences.

By taking the Carl Jung typology test, you can discover your own personality type and gain insight into how your unique traits and tendencies might fit into your life's work. Understanding your personality type can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, as well as the types of tasks and activities that are most likely to be fulfilling and energizing for you.

For example, if you are an introverted, intuitive, feeling type, you might be drawn to creative pursuits like writing, music, or art. If you are an extraverted, sensing, thinking type, you might excel in more action-oriented fields like business, law, or sports.

Ultimately, the Carl Jung typology test can help you understand yourself better and make more informed decisions about your career, relationships, and life goals. By recognizing your own unique strengths and weaknesses, you can build a life that is more aligned with your values and passions, and ultimately, find greater happiness and fulfillment.

The link to Carl Jung typology test

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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Rachel is available for coaching

Discover the Power of the Moment - Manifest your Dreams Retreat

A retreat is designed to help you recharge your life and to put focus on your dreams and goals. The benefits of a retreat are priceless, from inner peace and relaxation, to self-discovery, to spiritual growth, to a connection with nature, a chance to meet new friends to improved mental health. A retreat can help alleviate stress, anxiety, and depression, leading to improved overall mental well-being. We can move forward from the state of the world to one of a deep feeling of peace, support and purpose. Our lives become more meaningful, with purpose and clarity, as we navigate our lives in a more enhanced way. A retreat is also a way to step outside the box and do something different and adventurous in a safe environment, surrounded by people of like-mind. Please also keep in mind this is a spiritual affordable retreat.

With all that said, below are full details on a retreat I am directing the weekend of April 14-16 2023:

Our retreat will take place at Our Lady of Grace, that is centrally located in Manhasset 1.9 miles off the Long Island Expressway at exit 35.  

April 14-16 2023, Our Lady of Grace Retreat Center, 29 Shelter Rock Road,Manhasset NY 11030

Discover the Power of the Moment - Manifest your Dreams

This special retreat is designed to be relaxing, fun and enlightening, as we explore ways to manifest our dreams & goals. You will have plenty of free time to walk the beautiful, serene grounds, as we take in the spring season at this enchanting retreat house. This reflective journey is designed to help you discover the incredible power of the moment, which brings fulfillment & happiness. 

Weekend begins Friday at 6:30 p.m. and ends Sunday at 2:00 p.m. There will be 5 delicious meals, lodging for 2 nights and a program that includes a series of talks, a fun game night and an optional mass. Give yourself the gift of time. Full details on my website.

There are only 6 spots left.

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Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

Finding Purpose in Life after 50

For many people, turning 50 marks a significant milestone in our lives. Additionally, finding purpose as an empty nester is essential to creating a rewarding life. We usually have a lot more time on our hands at this stage of life. Life after 50 for a woman and life after 50 for a man can bring change and challenges. It’s a time when we may start to question our purpose and meaning in life, and wonder what the next chapter of our lives will look like. Finding purpose and meaning in life is rewarding. Finding purpose in work and hobbies is a fun challenge. Finding purpose in retirement is crucial to our state of mind. However, the good news is that finding purpose and fulfillment after 50 and in retirement is entirely possible, and can be a truly rewarding experience. Finding your passion and purpose is the key to a happier life. Here are some tips and examples to help you find your purpose in life after 50.

1. Explore Your Passions and Interests: One of the best ways to discover your purpose in life after 50 is to explore your passions and interests. What do you love doing? What brings you joy and fulfillment? It could be anything from volunteering, travel, writing, gardening, or even learning a new skill or language. Take the time to try new things and rediscover old hobbies. You may be surprised at what you enjoy, and it could lead to a new sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Example: Mary, a retired teacher, discovered a passion for painting after taking a community art class. She now spends most of her time creating art and selling her paintings online. Painting has given her a new sense of purpose and joy in her golden years.

2. Reflect on Your Values and Beliefs: Another way to discover your purpose in life is to reflect on your values and beliefs. What is important to you? What do you believe in? This could be anything from family, community, spirituality, or social justice. Think about how you can incorporate your values and beliefs into your daily life and find ways to make a positive impact.

Example: John, a retired engineer, discovered a passion for volunteering at his local soup kitchen. He realized that helping others was an important value for him, and he now spends several hours a week serving food and connecting with those in need. Volunteering has given him a new sense of purpose and fulfillment.

3. Connect with Others: One of the most important ways to find purpose and fulfillment in life after 50 is to connect with others. This could be through volunteering, joining a club or organization, or simply spending time with friends and family. Connecting with others can provide a sense of community and belonging, and can help you discover new interests and passions.

Example: Sarah, a retired nurse, joined a local hiking group and has made many new friends through the group. Hiking has become a new passion for her, and she now organizes hiking trips for the group. Being part of the hiking group has given her a new sense of purpose and connection in her golden years.

4. Embrace Change: Finally, it’s important to embrace change in your life after 50. This could be anything from moving to a new city, starting a new career, or simply trying something new. Change can be scary, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and discovery. Step outside the box and be adventurous in embracing change.

Example: Tom, a retired accountant, decided to move to a new city to be closer to his grandchildren. He was nervous about starting over in a new place, but he quickly discovered new hobbies and interests, and even started a new consulting business in his field. Moving to a new city gave him a new sense of purpose and adventure in his golden years.

5. Purpose over 50: Louise Hay started her Hay House a successful publishing company at the age of 58. James Parkinson was over 60 when he discovered Parkinson disease was a neurological syndrome. Laura Ingalls Wilder began writing the little house series at 65.

In conclusion, finding purpose and fulfillment in life after 50 is rewarding and fulfilling. By exploring your passions and interests, reflecting on your values and beliefs, connecting with others, and embracing change, you can discover new meaning and joy in your golden years. Remember, it’s never too late to start a new chapter in your life and find purpose and fulfillment in the process. There are plenty of books on finding purpose. I write a book called, The Third Road, and I have a chapter called, Your Purpose. It explains in more detail how to discover your purpose, at any age.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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Scriptures on Purpose and Destiny Rachel Devine

The question of why we were created is one of the most fundamental questions that human beings have asked throughout history. What is the purpose of life according to the bible? What does the bible say about divine destiny? What does the bible say about destiny? And what about scriptures on purpose and vision, what does the Bible say about that? We will explore different types of destiny in the Bible. Many people, including myself, believe that we were created by God, and that the Bible provides insight into why we were created. In this article, we will explore the reasons why God created us, as well as some Bible scriptures on purpose and destiny that shed light on this topic.

Firstly, it is important to note that according to the Bible, God created us for His own purposes. In the book of Isaiah, God declares, "I have created you for my glory, I have formed you; you are mine" (Isaiah 43:7). This verse suggests that one reason we were created was to bring glory to God. In other words, God created us to reflect His goodness, love, and power to the world.

Another reason why God created us was to have a relationship with us. In the book of Genesis, we read that God created human beings in His own image and likeness (Genesis 1:27). This suggests that we were created to have a special connection with God, one that is different from any other created being. The Bible teaches that God desires to have a close relationship with each one of us, and that He loves us deeply. Jesus said, "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends" (John 15:13). This verse suggests that God's love for us is so great that He was willing to sacrifice His own son for our salvation.

In addition to these reasons, the Bible also suggests that God created us to fulfill a specific purpose. In the book of Ephesians, we read that God "created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago" (Ephesians 2:10). This verse suggests that each one of us has a unique purpose that God has planned for us, and that He has equipped us with the gifts and talents we need to fulfill that purpose.

Overall, the Bible teaches that God created us for His own glory, to have a relationship with us, and to fulfill a specific purpose. As we strive to understand our place in the world, it is important to remember that we were created with intention and purpose by a God who loves us deeply.

Some additional Bible verses that shed light on why God created us included are bible verses about purpose and direction:

• Psalm 139:13-16 - "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be."

• Colossians 1:16 - "For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him."

• Isaiah 45:12 - "It is I who made the earth and created mankind on it. My own hands stretched out the heavens; I marshaled their starry hosts."

• Jeremiah 1:5 - "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."

  In conclusion, having a purpose in life is not just a lofty idea, it is based on scripture and God’s will for us. You might say, God’s will for us, is our purpose in life. Many pondered, what is God’s will, and I think the better question to ponder is, what is my life’s purpose. In order to live your life on purpose, one has to sit and ask two questions. What do I love doing? And will what I love doing help humanity or the earth in some way? Once you can answer these two fundamental questions therein lies your purpose and destiny in life, for your purpose is something you love doing, that brings passion and helps mankind.

  Rachel Devine is the author of Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack & The Third Road.

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Defining Purpose in Life: Unraveling the Meaning of Life - Rachel Devine

Throughout the ages, individuals have pondered the age-old question what is the meaning of life, seeking answers to the question of why we exist and what our ultimate purpose might be. Why is it important to find your purpose in life? The answer lies in your personal thoughts and motivation. The quest for understanding the meaning to life and purpose has led to a multitude of philosophical, religious, and scientific explorations. This article seeks to explore the concept of purpose in life, shedding light on the meaning of life and offering suggestions for how one might find their own purpose.

I. The Many Meanings of Life

While there may not be a single, universally agreed-upon meaning of life, various perspectives offer differing interpretations. These interpretations are shaped by individual beliefs, cultural norms, and life experiences. Some popular perspectives include:

1. Religious or spiritual meaning: For many people, religion and spirituality provide a framework for understanding the meaning of life, often revolving around themes of connection, love, and service. Having a connection to a higher power brings much meaning to people’s life and gives them an anchor when life doesn’t go their way. It gives one a sense of security to know there is a supernatural being that guides and supports them on their journey.

2. Existential meaning: From an existentialist perspective, life has no inherent meaning, and it is up to each individual to create their own purpose.

3. Hedonistic meaning: This perspective posits that the meaning of life lies in the pursuit of pleasure, happiness, and personal fulfillment. Finding purpose is one of the key ways to find fulfillment in life.

4. Humanistic meaning: According to humanistic thought, the meaning of life is found in our connections to others and our ability to improve the human condition. One of the central idea behind a purpose in life is to help humanity in some way that improves life or the planet.

5. Biological meaning: From a purely biological standpoint, the purpose of life is to survive, reproduce, and pass on our genetic material. Although it sounds simple, this is one of the true meanings to life.

6. Buddhism: Buddhism recommends that the meaning of life consists not in restricting desires so as to achieve happiness in this life; rather, the Buddhist claims that life has meaning only if it is understood as a mere stepping stone to an enlightenment in which the self escapes from worldly concerns. Being in a state of bliss, outside of the world of chaos, is part of this journey.

7. Jesus: Jesus taught his followers that those who live good lives and follow his teachings will be rewarded with eternal life in God's kingdom. Another important teaching of Jesus’ is to love God with all our heart and soul and to love our neighbor as we love ourself.

8. Dali Lama: The Dali Lama’s philosophy is that the basic source of all happiness is a sense of kindness and warm-heartedness for everyone we encounter. We are all the same as human beings. We are born the same way, we die the same way, and we all want to lead happy lives.

II. Finding Your Personal Purpose

Given the diverse range of perspectives on the meaning of life, it's important for individuals to explore their own values and desires to determine their personal purpose. You have to scrutinize your own feelings on the meaning of life. Sitting in a quiet room and contemplating what you enjoy doing and what gives you passion in life, is a great start to having your purpose unfold. Sometimes our purpose comes in unexpected ways and sometimes it comes from an intuitive thought. You could be driving and all of a sudden a thought comes to mind and your purpose surfaces like a ray of sun. Don’t try to force it, just go with the flow.

Here are some steps to help with this process:

1. Self-reflection: Spend time contemplating your passions, values, and what brings you joy. What do you love doing? What activities make you feel most alive and fulfilled?

2. Identify your strengths: Understanding your unique skills and talents can help you determine how to make a meaningful impact on the world.

3. Consider the impact you want to have: What legacy do you want to leave behind? How do you want to be remembered? What mark do you want to leave on this world?

4. Set goals: Break down your overarching purpose into smaller, achievable goals that can guide your daily actions. Take small steps to achieve these goals and be steadfast in going in the direction of your purpose.

5. Remain open and adaptable: Understand that your purpose may evolve over time as you grow and learn more about yourself and the world around you. Stay open to present and new possibilities as our lives are always moving and growing. It is really important to put some thought into this, even meditate on what you want to achieve in life.

III. The Role of Purpose in Well-Being

Having a sense of purpose can positively impact overall well-being. Studies have shown that people who have a strong sense of purpose in life are more likely to experience increased happiness, better mental health, and a greater sense of satisfaction. Purpose can also contribute to resilience in the face of adversity, providing motivation and direction during challenging times.

In conclusion, while the meaning of life may be a complex and ever-evolving topic, developing a personal sense of purpose can provide direction, motivation, and fulfillment. By engaging in self-reflection, identifying strengths, and considering the impact one wants to have on the world, individuals can create their own unique path toward a life of purpose and meaning.

And to simplify the process of unraveling your purpose in life, think about what you love doing and if it helps humanity in some capacity, therein lies your purpose in life; the reason you were created. It really is that simple. It’s all about what you love doing and how it will help humanity in some way, like helping people or the planet.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road your Secret Journey Home & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack - Become a Magnet for True Love.

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